If you hit a bit of a snag in the bedroom, don’t worry. It happens to everybody at some point in life. If you’ve been with a partner for a long time, you might notice that the bedroom isn’t as steamy as it used to be. Or, you might simply be approaching old age, and not finding the same vigor that you had as a younger person.
Whatever the case may be, it’s well-established that most people come into a sexual lull at least once in their lives. A lot of the time, this is caused by hormones fluctuating and causing strange behavior and emotional instability. Your hormones are responsible for your sex drive, so if your hormones are changing due to your age or new medications, your sex drive my falter.
Other times you might find that a sexual lull arises as a result of difficulties in a relationship. You might find it difficult to connect with your partner sexually if you are always angry at each other. Or, you might simply have run out of ideas in the bedroom and be looking for something new to try.
Regardless of the cause, things can seem a little bit hopeless when you run out of sexual steam. Don’t let this make you think that it’s time to give up having sex. There are a lot of things that you can do to spice things up in the bedroom, regardless of your age or how long you’ve been with a partner. Today, we’re going to look at some of the best things that you can do to liven things up in the bedroom.
Feel those emotions
if your sex life has hit a low and you are currently in a relationship, you should address the current state of the relationship and identify anything in your relationship that might be a cause of sexual problems.
We mentioned that you might face sexual difficulties as a result of relationship problems. This could also be an opportunity to explore new sexuality and release some steam (not the sexy kind). if you find that you are often arguing with or angry at your partner, you could role play or get into BDSM. As long as you maintain a safe word and play within safe limits, this can be a great way to express yourselves, identify relationship problems, and manage them in a way that benefits both of you – if you are both into it.
Try it in some new areas
Having sex in the same place every day can get a bit monotonous. A lot of couples like to spice up their sex lives by trying and having sex in a new area.
A new area could be a different room in your house that you’ve never used before. Have you ever tried having sex in the kitchen? This might sound weird, but you can make it work. That’s part of the fun. What about in the living room? There are a lot of opportunities, and the thrill of finding somewhere fresh to express yourselves can be exciting.
If you have already tackled everywhere in your house, then you could try having sex in public. A lot of people do this because the thrill helps keep their sex lives hot and exciting. You’ll have to make sure that you’re cautious and you don’t break any rules or get busted by law enforcement.
This one can be a bit difficult to explore at first, mostly because a lot of couples have not tried polyamory before. If you are in a long-term relationship with someone, it can be very difficult to suggest that you’re interested in sharing your body with other people. Your partner may get jealous or upset.
However, people who are comfortable enough with their partners to believe that they will love them regardless of who else they may have sex with, polyamory can be a very exciting thing. It allows you to explore more of your sexuality and reach a broader level of sexual understanding with yourself, which can improve your sexual relationship with your partner.
Some people really enjoy watching the way that their partner has sex with another person. Others find that they are able to learn new techniques and explore new ideas by watching their partner get pleased by someone else. Both of these things can add exciting new fuel to your own personal sex life with your partner when the two of you are alone.
If you plan to have a discussion about having a polyamorous relationship, make sure that you open it up the very tactfully and do not make your partner think that you are not satisfied with them.
Watch some porn
A lot of couples find that they are able to renew the vigor their sexual relationships by watching pornography together. Many people say that sex is not really like it is in pornographic videos, but you’d be surprised how many tactics from porngraphic videos that couples can glean. You’ll discover new ideas and positions from watching porn together.
Plus, if you have ever watched porn with somebody, then you know how funny of an experience it can be. There’s a lot of opportunity for laughter and jokes to be made while watching porn with your partner.
Make a video
Now that you have watched pornography together, it’s your turn to contribute to the pornographic world. A lot of couples have a great time making their first pornographic video together. All you need is a cheap camcorder!
Making your own porn videos allows you to observe yourself during your most intimate moments and can give you a much better understanding of the way that you have sex. Plus, it’s often a huge turn-on for couples to watch themselves having sex. (Alternatively, you could get a big mirror for your ceiling and watch yourselves have sex with that.)
Watching yourself have sex with your partner is a great way for you to develop a better understanding of your own sexual skills. You can see where you need to improve and see where you’re doing well.
If you two really enjoy making the video, you can continue to make a series. Whether or not you choose to upload them to the internet is up to you.