A lingam massage is a tantric sex practice. Lingam is the Taoist name for the penis, and as such, a lingam massage is a form of penis massage. However, it’s much different than a handjob.
Generally, when men are receiving a handjob, the goal is either to reach orgasm or to prepare the way for the more stimulating activity that will eventually lead to orgasm. Lingam massage is often done without necessarily leading to orgasm.
However, in doing this, men can actually train themselves to become multi-orgasmic. In this article, we’re going to explain how the lingam massage can be useful as a multiple-orgasm technique for men.
Table of Contents
- What is a Lingam Massage?
- Why Should You Get a Lingam Massage?
- The Lingam Massage Guide
- Orgasm Without Ejaculation And Multi-Orgasmic Sex
You might have heard of a yoni massage. A yoni massage is a sexual practice that focuses on massaging the vagina. The goal of a yoni massage is to explore different stages of pleasure and learn more about the vagina (known as the yoni) so that women can experience a greater overall pleasure.
Yoni lingam massage is basically the same thing, except the lingam massage is for men instead of women. Massaging the penis – known as the lingam – is a great way to teach men more about their sexuality and their pleasure levels. A lingam massage can even be considered a type of male enhancement exercise.
A tantric lingam massage isn’t generally supposed to lead to orgasm – rather, it’s supposed to allow men to enjoy waves of increasing pleasure whilst they explore and learn more about their sexual parts.
Regular lingam massage can be useful for helping men become multi-orgasmic and can increase their overall sexual performance. The main reason for this is because a lingam massage reconditions the way that men think about sexual pleasure.
Most men (not all) see sex as something with an objective: to have an orgasm. This line of thinking causes men to ejaculate quicker than they would if they had a different perspective on sex. In fact, this belief often underlies premature ejaculation and other sexual health problems.
A lingam massage, on the other hand, can be useful for helping men to see sex as something to be enjoyed rather than as a goal that needs to be met. When men start to simply enjoy the pleasure of being touched, they can begin to simply enjoy the act of being intimate with their partners.
Over time, this will lead them to become masters in bed. They will no longer be slaves to their biological impulses which tell them to simply ejaculate as quickly as they can. Instead, they will be able to enjoy increasingly intense waves of pleasure until they and their partners are both satisfied many times over.
There are a few reasons that you should give yourself a lingam massage (or get your partner to give you one).
Many men enjoy lingam massages just because they’re pleasurable, but to be frank, if you’re just doing it for immediate pleasure then you’re sort of missing the point. Sure, a lingam massage feels good, but it’s also a gateway that can allow you to develop new sexual skills and improve your competence in the bedroom.
One of the main reasons that men give themselves lingam massages is because they can pave the way to multi-orgasmic sex and they help to improve sexual stamina. However, the only way that you’re really going to be able to enjoy these benefits is by staying true to the tantric nature of the practice.
This is as much a matter of willpower and determination as anything else, which isn’t what most people expect from a massage. However, much like the practice of edging, if you want to train yourself during a lingam massage you need to make a point of not ejaculating.
Lingam massage can also be useful for helping men who have erectile dysfunction. A properly-executed lingam massage can be considered a type of reflexology, which helps to promote blood flow to the genitals. However, these medical lingam massages are a bit more complex and require specific training to perform.
Lingam massages can also be considered a highly beneficial form of masturbation.
According to traditional Chinese and Taoist medicine systems, a lingam massage should be performed by a trained practitioner if you want to consider it an actual medical practice. A “real” lingam massage is composed of a series of more than 25 different holds, each of which needs to be mastered before they can be given properly.
However, you can learn to do lingam massages on your own – or, even better, teach your partner how to give you one. These ‘modern’ lingam massages often don’t really amount to much more than a super-sensual handjob, but they’re still more exciting than what you’re probably used to.
If you want to learn how to do a ‘real’ lingam massage, do some research into Taoist tantric practices. You won’t be disappointed.
Modern lingam massages can still be useful for helping you learn to master your ejaculatory control. They can help increase blood flow to your penis and, above all, they can be useful for helping you learn how to have multiple orgasms.
This is a basic guide on how to give or receive a lingam massage.
This step is optional, but traditional practitioners will recommend that men learn some deep breathing techniques before they try a lingam massage. These breathing techniques will help them relax and enjoy the massage.
Taoist practices also teach different ways that men can control their sexual energy using breathwork. These practices are incredibly powerful and allow you to redirect your focus and sexual energy away from your genitals. This allows you to last longer and can lead to full-body orgasms which are far more intense than simple genital-based orgasms.
It can also be helpful to set up some ambience so that you or your partner can really relax. This can be done by lighting candles or dimming the lights, lighting incense, or putting on relaxing (or sexy) music.
You will also probably want to get some massage oil. Lingam massages can last a long time and you don’t want to dry out. If you choose to massage your prostate, you’re also going to want to make sure that your fingers are lubed up.
Starting with a full-body massage is a good way to really set the mood. This also helps to ensure that you and your partner are on the same page. Try to synchronize your breathing.
Starting the Massage
Lie on your back and prop your head up with one or more pillows. If your partner is giving you a massage, it can be nice to look down and watch them do it. Placing a pillow under your hips also helps to elevate your pelvis which improves overall comfort.
Keep your legs slightly apart and your knees bent. Starting the massage at the feet and moving up to the head (skipping the penis) and back down to the penis helps to encourage intense, full-body stimulation.
Start with the top of the thighs, kneading and stroking the muscles where the top of the leg meets the pelvis. Use different amounts of pressure and different ranges of motion. This helps bring blood into the lingam area.
Let your partner know beforehand if you prefer your testicles to be gently stroked, kneaded, or pulled. If you’re giving yourself the massage, obviously, this will be up to you.
The Sacred Spot
Move down to the perineum, the sacred spot between your anus and testicles. Gentle pressing and circular movements can help to relax the perineum and bring blood into the region. Massage downwards from the sacred spot to the anus, then move towards the testicles.
Now, you can use one hand to massage your testicles while the other hand massages your pubic bone, drawing blood throughout the region.
After the testicles have been fully relaxed, you can move on to the lingam. Start at the base, gently stroking towards the top. Gradually begin to apply slight pressure, slowly moving the hand towards the top. Switch hands and change the amount of pressure that you use.
Massage the whole head of the penis, using a lubricated hand. You can perform circular motions, gentle strokes, and apply slight pressure to awaken the sexual energy stored in the tip of the penis.
If you start to come close to climax, slow down! The longer you wait, the more intense your orgasm will be. And, if you’re able to complete the massage without having an orgasm, you’ll be better able to learn how to control your orgasm.
If you’re worried about getting blue balls, there are other tantric practices worth looking into that can help you avoid this problem. However, we don’t have enough room to discuss this here.
So, how exactly can you use this knowledge to have multi-orgasmic sex?
The first thing that you can do is known as orgasm without ejaculation. Many men don’t know that orgasm and ejaculation are actually two separate experiences. When they learn how to separate ejaculation from orgasm, they can actually stop the ejaculation while still having an orgasm.
Lingam massages help with this because they allow you to develop awareness of the different stages of your arousal. During your massage, make a mental note of how close you are to ejaculating on a scale of 1-10. When you’re at a 10, you reach the point of no return – the point where you can’t stop yourself from having an orgasm.
When you reach an 8 or a 9, stop yourself from massaging and let your arousal levels decrease a bit. This builds awareness. Then, bring yourself to the point of no return but try not to let yourself commit to a complete orgasm.
Once you’ve reached the point of no return, flex your pelvic floor muscles and stop stimulating yourself. If your muscles are strong enough, this will prevent you from ejaculating but you’ll still be able to have an orgasm.
When a man ejaculates, this triggers his refractory period. During the refractory period, it’s often harder to get an erection, and certainly harder to have another orgasm. When you manage to have an orgasm without ejaculating, the refractory period is much less intense.
This means that you can continue to stimulate yourself and enjoy multiple orgasms. If you choose to finally ejaculate at the end of your lingam massage, you will ejaculate much more and it will feel more intense. If you choose not to ejaculate, you will develop more sexual control and your sexual energy will vitalize your entire body and you will have more energy.
This practice can be taken into the bedroom, as well. The more that you train yourself to enjoy pleasure without focusing on having an orgasm, the better you will be at doing the same thing in the bedroom. Eventually, you’ll be able to hold off your ejaculation while you’re having sex. This will increase the pleasure for both you and your partner.
Lingam massage is a great way to explore your sexuality. In addition to feeling great, a lingam massage will help you understand what you enjoy, what you don’t enjoy, and how to maximize your pleasure.
That’s not all, though. A lingam massage can also be a fantastic tool for helping you improve your sexual performance. With enough practice, men can use lingam massage to become multi-orgasmic and to develop mastery over their ejaculation.