Over time, it’s totally natural for your libido to fluctuate. Believe it or not, our sex drive can take a hit from different directions, including stress, hormone fluctuations and a change in medication.
While many of us fear old age – and the possibility of losing our sex drive at the same time – getting older doesn’t have to mean a lack of libido.
So, if you’re keen to get your mojo back, you’ve come to the right place. Here are a few different ways to increase your sex drive and get back in the sack with confidence.
Manage anxious feelings
It is difficult to feel sexual when you feel anxious. In fact, anxiety has been shown to increase sexual dysfunction.
There are many different types of anxiety disorders, all of which can affect us in a variety of ways. But how can you manage those anxious feelings?
Try to speak openly with your partner, to help alleviate those feelings of anxiousness. Especially if you’re concerned about your sex drive or sexual performance. Before reaching for therapy or medications, try to take a look at what is making you feel anxious, and speak freely with your partner or a close friend.
You can also practise yoga or moments of mindfulness to help put your mind at ease.
Treat depression
There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to anxiety and depression. In fact, it isn’t spoken about enough! Much like anxiety, depression can take its toll on your sex drive. Heck, who feels in the mood for sex when they’ve got bigger concerns on their mind?
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Well, no one. So you’re not alone! Like anxiety, you can look to treat depression with therapy, medications, and/or natural healing methods. If you’re concerned about depression and sex drive, it’s important to speak to your doctor about other options.
Get plenty of high quality sleep
Good sleep is the key to starting a day off right. Sleep disorders are associated with many different health problems, including low libido and sexual dysfunction.
If you have a severe sleep disorder or trouble sleeping long term, talk to your doctor about possible treatment. If you have a milder problem, such as sometimes dealing with insomnia, or struggling with racing thoughts when trying to fall asleep, you can try our tips below to improve your sleep habits.
- Try not to eat too late, especially sugary processed foods
- Avoid scrolling on social media late at night, and opt for reading or listening to an audio book instead
- Try to reduce irregular or long daytime naps
- Avoid caffeine late in the day
- Get plenty of exercise
- Try to keep to a sleep schedule
Try some natural libido boosting foods
There are a number of different natural, foods herbs and adaptogens (ie substances that have been shown to relieve depression and fatigue) that have been shown to improve everything from libido to fertility. Some of the most popular are maca, ginseng and ginkgo biloba.
- Avocado
- Watermelon
- Pine nuts
- Broccoli
- Yohimbine
- Black raspberries
- Herbs, such as garlic and ginkgo biloba
Exercise regularly
There is no shortage of benefits that our body gets through regular exercise, but you’ll be pleased to hear you can add improved libido to your already long list of rewards for exercise.
There are many ways physical activity serves to improve sexual drive, including positive physical self-confidence, improved heart health and mood, increased sympathetic nervous system activity, and improved endocrine system.
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If you’re new to exercise, start off slow with a brisk walk and work your way up to regular intense exercise.
Keep tabs on foods that limit sex drive
Foods that increase your sexual desire are known as aphrodisiacs, and foods that can reduce your libido are called anaprodisiacs.
However, in the opposite sense to aphrodisiacs, anaprodisiac foods contain nutrients and properties that can reduce your sexual health. These foods include:
- High saturated fats, often found in fried foods, can lead to clogged arteries and reduced blood flow
- Soy, which can increase estrogen
- Polyunsaturated fats, such as vegetable oil, can reduce testosterone levels
- High sodium, which increases blood pressure
- Foods that require insulin to process, such as white flour and sugar, can reduce testosterone levels
Work on your relationship
When you’re in a long term relationship, it’s easy to feel as though your sexual chemistry has fizzled out. This can lead us to believe that our sex drive has gone entirely.
If you’re not feeling excited about sex with your partner, it can make getting in the mood even more difficult. But it all comes down to communication.
Try to speak openly with your partner and jointly work on your relationship together. Whether it’s creating a ‘date night’ each week for some quality time, going on a vacation or rediscovering foreplay together, there are plenty of ways to get that spark back.
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The better your relationship feels to you emotionally, the more likely you are to want to be intimate with your partner.
Limit your alcohol intake (and other things)
It’s no shock that alcohol and recreational drugs can negatively affect your sexual desire. Alcohol acts as a means of increasing libido in the moment, but in reality, it is a suppressor, so the initial increase in your desire for sex is only temporary.
Alcohol can have a negative effect on parts of your body that are important for sexual function and libido, from blood flow to organ function. If you notice an increase in libido from drinking, try to limit your intake with a single glass of wine or cocktail. Think: Less is more!
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